COUPLES COUNSELING




Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.
~ Lao Tzu



YOU ARE IN THIS TOGETHER





COMMUNICATION





The biggest communication problem is that we do not listen to understand. We listen to reply



You may find yourself stuck in a ‘loop’, going around and around like two fighters in a ring, each of you using communication strategies that are harmful, hurtful, and disrespectful. Your strategies are ineffective. They can be destructive. They don’t get you anywhere, except back to where you started, arguing about the same things with little to no resolution. Couples counseling will help you learn more effective strategies so you can finally break through that old loop and start to heal, rebuild, and strengthen your relationship.



relationship trauma



“I'm not upset that you lied to me, I'm upset that from now on I can't believe you.”
― Friedrich Nietzsche





Affairs, both emotional and/or physical, behavioral addictions (i.e. sex, gambling, internet), and past intimate partner violence harm relationships. These behaviors damage trust and sense of safety. Relationship therapy will help you face these betrayal trauma so you can move through necessary healing. You will have those difficult conversations you may have been avoiding. You will talk openly about the future of the relationship. You can face the trauma together, in the safety of the therapy room.



sexual and emotional intimacy



Couples Intimacy Enrichment Program





This is a 10-12 session program to help you build a stronger emotional, sensual, and sexual connection. This structured program gives you a step by step approach, that is active and fun. You will learn how to use sensate focus and mindfulness to get better connected to your own body and heighten your own sensual/sexual sensations. The program also strengthens emotional intimacy while you learn to talk more openly with each other about your sexual needs, preferences, desires.



initial couples consultation





We will all meet together for 60-90 minutes.

Each of you will be given the opportunity to share your perspective and beliefs about why you are seeking counseling. We will discuss the challenges you are having in your relationship. We will explore and identify your mutual goals You will receive solution-focused recommendations



individal assessment





Many times it is useful to meet with each partner for 90 minutes. It is an in-depth assessment focused on each partner’s lived experiences and beliefs. This In-depth interview helps in gaining a better understanding of who you are, and your personal perspectives about the relationship. You will also have the opportunity to explore and define your own individual goals.



LET me help YOU



your relationship can thrive


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Lynne a santiago, phd, lmhc



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